How does divorce affect children under the age of 7? A friend of mine has three kids, the oldest is 7 yrs old. She has decided to get a divorce and pursue another relationship. I feel so bad for the kids. I don’t know how the kids are going to react. They plan to have the children stay one week with one parent and the following week with the other parent. How will these kids be affected?
The kids will SEEM to adjust just fine – but then they will become pre-teens and teens and will have some tougher questions. Kids do NOT adjust well to divorce. I work with teens a lot, and they usually isolate themselves and close themselves off. Sometimes, they might go looking for a more complete social life outside the home, because they no longer trust the concept of family love anymore. Kids of divorce need a lot of TLC, and probably a solid, daily commitment from each parent to SHOW how much they love and appreciate their kids.
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My husband and I are getting ready to go through divorce and he is on disability? Do children keep benefits?
15 Oct 2009
When a husband and wife divorce, do the children keep their benefits when the husband is the one on disability and the wife is the custodial parent? Also, if they do keep their benefits, is the wife still able to collect child support from the father? He is working part time, getting paid cash for his work….how can I prove he is making this money so this money can be counted on to collect support?
I only know about SSA… my ex was on SSA and my daughter recieved benefits as part of their "family allocation" (I did not choose to recieve benefits). See, they have one amount for individuals on disability like your husband.. then they have a different amount for "family" ~ let’s say the family amount is $600… if your child is the only one listed, the child will recieve the full $600, if you and your child are listed, then you will recieve $300 and the child will recieve $300, etc… when you divorce, whoever has residential custody would apply to SSA to be the representative payee for the child and they would recieve the child’s portion from SSA. No, you cannot collect child support as your portion of the SSA family allocation is for that purpose. If you can prove he’s making additional unclaimed money, you could take that to SSA, but likely it would do you more harm than good as then he and the children would not recieve SSA any longer and would only get child support based on his part time under the table job.
My husband and I are getting ready to go through divorce and he is on disability? Do children keep benefits?
15 Oct 2009
When a husband and wife divorce, do the children keep their benefits when the husband is the one on disability and the wife is the custodial parent? Also, if they do keep their benefits, is the wife still able to collect child support from the father? He is working part time, getting paid cash for his work….how can I prove he is making this money so this money can be counted on to collect support?
I only know about SSA… my ex was on SSA and my daughter recieved benefits as part of their "family allocation" (I did not choose to recieve benefits). See, they have one amount for individuals on disability like your husband.. then they have a different amount for "family" ~ let’s say the family amount is $600… if your child is the only one listed, the child will recieve the full $600, if you and your child are listed, then you will recieve $300 and the child will recieve $300, etc… when you divorce, whoever has residential custody would apply to SSA to be the representative payee for the child and they would recieve the child’s portion from SSA. No, you cannot collect child support as your portion of the SSA family allocation is for that purpose. If you can prove he’s making additional unclaimed money, you could take that to SSA, but likely it would do you more harm than good as then he and the children would not recieve SSA any longer and would only get child support based on his part time under the table job.
I’m doing a research paper and I could use your answers as evidence. Please answer honestly. Also, tell me why you think the way you do…if you went through a divorce, if your a teacher, or a therapist, etc. Thank you!
Well, to be quite honest, it was the best thing my parents have ever done for me.
From the time I was born until they got divorced at age 7, I watched them fight each other. Blood battles, really. Dad fist fighting mom- Mom yelling cuss words, *birds* flying. Not fun stuff. Not only that, but I’d "get in the way" and be swept up into the abuse.
The mental, physical and emotional abuse that I experienced in my first 7 years of life scarred me for the next 13 years. I went through counseling, because I had a hard time trusting men- I honestly thought they’d all end up beating me. (As several did).
Thankfully, I had my grandmother to take care of me from 7-18, and that was the best thing anyone has ever done.
But that emotional and physical abuse sustained in childhood from a bad marriage is worse- far-far worse than anything divorce could do. If couples were to divorce before such violence cropped up, and talked to their children about why it was happening (talked to them in a civilized, kindly manor) the children would be upset- but take it far better.
I have an in class debate for my psychology class, of if Divorce affects the children or not.
I believe it does, but I got put on the ‘no it does not side’ (We did not get to choose)
And I really cant find any sources to show it does not. So if anyone can give me any opinions and why I would be grateful.
Search for good parenting websites instead of how to help your children deal with divorce.
It’s important to tell your kids that they had nothing to do with it. If both parents are trying to be good parents, it can affect kids less.
Never bash the other parent in front of the kid
http://www.divorcemag.com/c/s3/?Relationships/gooddivorce.html
You can teach your children how to deal with conflict well. You can teach your children about healthy marriages and how two people can love each other and not be right for each other. This is especially true as teenagers are dealing with that. Someone can be a great guy and not right for you.
Both parents can focus on the quality of the kids lives.
For young children it can be an opportunity to express their feelings and learn how to honesty communicate negative feelings in a proper manner.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm
http://www.mediate.com/articles/psych.cfm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/children.htm
Hopefully those sites will help.
