Comments on: How To Get Over A Divorce – A Road To Recovery http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/ Specializing in information on divorce support groups, divorce counseling and other divorce support resources. Fri, 16 Apr 2010 20:09:29 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: weechi http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-104 weechi Sat, 05 Sep 2009 07:04:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-104 sounds like a plan...but i have something to add. for some reason, when my boyfriend decided he needed some time to deal with personal problems...i was all euphoric about my plan (sounds like yours.) this lasted about a week and a half, and then depression hit me in the face! i was too "tired" to go to my new clubs, or be with my new friends, or even to read books or do activities to keep me busy. i just sat there. and am currently sitting here now, on the computer. i recommend being ready for this moment where depression will hit. perhaps make a counseling appointment in advance. or tell some friends to get ready to pull you off the couch. make commitments to plans that you can't break so you HAVE to get up and do it. and don't stop going to the gym!! that's the best thing you can do for yourself.<br><b>References : </b><br> sounds like a plan…but i have something to add.

for some reason, when my boyfriend decided he needed some time to deal with personal problems…i was all euphoric about my plan (sounds like yours.) this lasted about a week and a half, and then depression hit me in the face! i was too "tired" to go to my new clubs, or be with my new friends, or even to read books or do activities to keep me busy. i just sat there. and am currently sitting here now, on the computer.

i recommend being ready for this moment where depression will hit. perhaps make a counseling appointment in advance. or tell some friends to get ready to pull you off the couch. make commitments to plans that you can’t break so you HAVE to get up and do it. and don’t stop going to the gym!! that’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
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]]> By: iris920523 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-103 iris920523 Sat, 05 Sep 2009 07:02:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-103 Am I missing something -- are you employed -- if you have time to work out 4 days a week and join three clubs at college, when are you working. I assume since you have been married that you were and still are employed full-time. If not, that might be an avenue for you to pursue -- could this have contributed to your break-up. If you are only 22 (she same age as you) and can afford it, complete college and work part-time -- marriage should not even be considered if you cannot support yourself, much less a spouse, too. See this as an opportunity to get your ducks in order: get a good education and a good job, then worry about getting married.<br><b>References : </b><br> Am I missing something — are you employed — if you have time to work out 4 days a week and join three clubs at college, when are you working. I assume since you have been married that you were and still are employed full-time. If not, that might be an avenue for you to pursue — could this have contributed to your break-up. If you are only 22 (she same age as you) and can afford it, complete college and work part-time — marriage should not even be considered if you cannot support yourself, much less a spouse, too. See this as an opportunity to get your ducks in order: get a good education and a good job, then worry about getting married.
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]]> By: Dr. Phil http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Dr. Phil Sat, 05 Sep 2009 07:00:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-102 all you really need is time, as does she.<br><b>References : </b><br> all you really need is time, as does she.
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]]> By: Doesanyoneknow89 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Doesanyoneknow89 Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:58:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-101 Aw i am soo sorry sweetie.. thats how my family is about my fiance, they want him gone but it aint happening. Just try to move on and get rid of all her stuff and do what you plan your still young and you will find some one that will treat you right and how you deserve! good luck!<br><b>References : </b><br> Aw i am soo sorry sweetie.. thats how my family is about my fiance, they want him gone but it aint happening. Just try to move on and get rid of all her stuff and do what you plan your still young and you will find some one that will treat you right and how you deserve! good luck!
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]]> By: Neil G http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Neil G Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:56:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-100 Going through a similar situation, together 12 years, married 8. Getting over the betrayal of what the ex does to you. Keep your mind busy. Getting ovet the mental trauma is very difficult, but one day things can/will click in with you. Dating can't hurt, no need to get serious if your not ready for that. Turn to trusted friends and family above all else<br><b>References : </b><br>http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=getting+started+again+after+divorce Going through a similar situation, together 12 years, married 8. Getting over the betrayal of what the ex does to you. Keep your mind busy. Getting ovet the mental trauma is very difficult, but one day things can/will click in with you. Dating can’t hurt, no need to get serious if your not ready for that. Turn to trusted friends and family above all else
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]]> By: maria s http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-99 maria s Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:54:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-99 You are better than me. My ex of 7 years left me for a co-worker 6 weeks ago. Yes i do try to stay busy, but he is on my mind constantly, so depressing and i am so hurt. He moved with her to a new place she drives his car, they work together and all in love. I am miserable and he started a new life. I thought of dating, however, the poor guy wouldn't stand a chance b/c he is not him. I am a member in the GYM, haven't been, no energy I lost so much weight On your part, it sounds like you dealing with this fairly well! All breakups hurt no matter how long. You are on the right track, and people tell me that only time will heal wounds so give it time to heal and love yourself. Good luck sending my love.<br><b>References : </b><br> You are better than me. My ex of 7 years left me for a co-worker 6 weeks ago. Yes i do try to stay busy, but he is on my mind constantly, so depressing and i am so hurt. He moved with her to a new place she drives his car, they work together and all in love.
I am miserable and he started a new life.
I thought of dating, however, the poor guy wouldn’t stand a chance b/c he is not him. I am a member in the GYM, haven’t been, no energy I lost so much weight
On your part, it sounds like you dealing with this fairly well! All breakups hurt no matter how long. You are on the right track, and people tell me that only time will heal wounds so give it time to heal and love yourself.
Good luck sending my love.
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]]> By: Clare http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Clare Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:52:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-98 Hi, Sometimes the busier you make yourself, the more lonely you can feel. If that makes sense? I know there's been many times after a relationship break-up when I've thrust myself onto the social scene (so to speak!) and have ended up feeling more alone as a result. There is nothing worse than being in a group of people who are lively and jolly and you feel like sh*t inside yet you have to desperately put a brave face on it. So my advice would be to allow yourself some time to grieve. If you can put a deadline on it 'I'm gonna feel sh*t for 3 months, and no more!' then I think it would be easier. Then once you've got all the analysing, grieving, reminiscing etc out of the way, you are properly ready to move with your life. And then I think you're ready to look to the future. And I think your plan sounds fine - I guess the whole point of this is to advise you to cut yourself some slack. You've been through an awful lot, so there's no rush to be happy straight away. Good luck - we've all been there in one way or another. X<br><b>References : </b><br> Hi,

Sometimes the busier you make yourself, the more lonely you can feel. If that makes sense? I know there’s been many times after a relationship break-up when I’ve thrust myself onto the social scene (so to speak!) and have ended up feeling more alone as a result. There is nothing worse than being in a group of people who are lively and jolly and you feel like sh*t inside yet you have to desperately put a brave face on it.

So my advice would be to allow yourself some time to grieve. If you can put a deadline on it ‘I’m gonna feel sh*t for 3 months, and no more!’ then I think it would be easier.

Then once you’ve got all the analysing, grieving, reminiscing etc out of the way, you are properly ready to move with your life. And then I think you’re ready to look to the future.

And I think your plan sounds fine – I guess the whole point of this is to advise you to cut yourself some slack. You’ve been through an awful lot, so there’s no rush to be happy straight away.

Good luck – we’ve all been there in one way or another. X
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]]> By: laffytaffy http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-97 laffytaffy Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:50:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-97 that sounds like and awesome plan. but dont rule out dating. there are women out there who are not looking for anything long term. just to have somone to go out with and have fun. why dont you try to find a girl who has the same intention as you.....no serious relationship. good luck. you are probably better off without ur wife<br><b>References : </b><br> that sounds like and awesome plan. but dont rule out dating. there are women out there who are not looking for anything long term. just to have somone to go out with and have fun. why dont you try to find a girl who has the same intention as you…..no serious relationship.

good luck. you are probably better off without ur wife
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]]> By: C.B http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-96 C.B Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:48:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-96 It is a very good plan. Give yourself some time to heal your wounds and hopefully something will come your way to make thing brighter.<br><b>References : </b><br> It is a very good plan. Give yourself some time to heal your wounds and hopefully something will come your way to make thing brighter.
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]]> By: abc http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/comment-page-1/#comment-95 abc Sat, 05 Sep 2009 06:46:59 +0000 http://www.divorcesupportgroupsblog.com/39/how-to-get-over-a-divorce-%e2%80%93-a-road-to-recovery/#comment-95 sounds like a great plan..........and now you know, if the gal's family doesn't like you....best to think twice about making a commitment.....<br><b>References : </b><br> sounds like a great plan……….and now you know, if the gal’s family doesn’t like you….best to think twice about making a commitment…..
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