Comments on: i am asked to do a debate on the benefit of divorce parents on children.so what do you think the strong reason?

By: Legandivori

Legandivori — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:30:59 +0000

I wrote a book on this and divorce related matters. If two people are willing, anything can be worked out as long as there is no drug addiction, alcoholism, physical abuse. ANYTHING can be healed expect chemical addictions and violence.

That being said, children should not be in a household where they learn to tolerate poor and abusive behavior, because that is what they will think is the norm.

They do far better in separate households all the time. However, if the split happens when the kids are in early teens, it is hardest ON them and they need massive therapy.

My eldest was that age when my ex divorced me after 19 years of marriage bnecuase of her delusional thinking. My oldest daughternow 32 today, as a matter of fact, and her brain works poorly, because of all the lies my ex told her about me and about life. She has nothing to do with me.
My youngest, now 29 has a working relationship with me.

It is important not to just throw awaw a marriage, but to work like crazy to save it, both people must work on it daily….emotional abuse must be stopped in therapy.
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By: xbrokenxbutterflyx

xbrokenxbutterflyx — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:22:59 +0000

There are definitely big benefits to divorce in some cases. My parents need to get a divorce long before they did, but they stayed together mainly for my sister and me. Once we got older though, we begged them to get a divorce. They fought all the time. I never saw them have an ounce of intimacy. They had such negative affects on each other. It made them both in such bad moods all the time. Once they got a divorce, its like they were completely different people. Its been 3 years now, and I’m the closest I have ever been with them.
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By: Deema

Deema — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 10:58:59 +0000

benifits:
wider experience of life
more independence
some kids will compensate by improving great talents that would normally be ignored
earlier understanding of complicity of life
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By: Julie W

Julie W — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 10:23:59 +0000

I do believe that divorce can benefit children, for a couple of reasons…
1-If one of the parents is unfit, the child would be better off with the other parent.
2-If the parents fight all the time, it is better for children to visit two happy homes rather than being stuck in a house that is full of hate and negativity. Children learn from their parents how to deal with other people. So say dad is very diarespectful and yells at mom all the time, chances are a young boy will grow up to act the same way towards women. Not all, but some.
I am a mother of two kids, and I divorced my first childs father for reason number 1, and she is happier and healthier because of it. My new husband, the father of my second child is a very warm and loving man and has excepted my daughter as his own. When it comes to parents, you always have to think about whats best for the children involved…even if it means going your separate ways to keep from further exposing your children to negativity.
I really hope this helps.
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By: Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions

Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 10:02:59 +0000

benefits of divorce:

parents separate, so no fights in front of the kids
kids get a more stable life at home

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